It may feel impossible to "just let it go" and enjoy the ride, especially if you are perfectionist and detail obsessed bride like I was. Chances are that not everything will go as you dreamed of, but with little bit of preparation and right state of mind you will still feel like princess and remember this as the most magical day of your life. Today I am sharing with you what helped me to take control of my fear and enjoy our wedding day to the fullest.
Before The Big Day
- Consider hiring Wedding Planner or Wedding Coordinator
If you can fit a pro planner into your budget, you won't regret it. Having a peace of mind that you are not the only one who knows every single detail is stress relief itself ! A great planner will make sure that everything is taken care of without having to discuss every little problem with you, so you can just show up without worrying that you forgot to coordinate someone.
If wedding planner is not an option for you, I highly recommend to consider hiring wedding coordinator. We had wedding coordinator for our wedding and I would not want to do it any other way. Wedding coordinator is your "point person" during your big day, so you don't have to be on the phone while you are getting ready and navigate everyone. Your wedding coordinator will make sure everyone is following the schedule and your planned wedding activities, so you can just relax and enjoy the moment.
Lastly, if wedding coordinator is not your option either - delegate roles to your closest family members and friends. Most likely they will feel honoured that they get to have important role during your big day and will be more than happy to help.
- Stay organized & have a schedule
This goes hand in hand with having wedding planner, coordinator or family members helping you out. By planning upfront and having schedule of events for your big day will ensure that all of your fun wedding activities will happen. All vendors included in your Big Day should receive a copy of your wedding timeline together with contact person, who they need to call if they have questions.
- Pamper, Relax, Breathe
You need to take care of your mind, body, and soul leading up to the Big Day. Stay connected with yourself and your partner. Pamper yourself as much as you can - spa treatments, massages, healthy eating, exercise, romantic walks, plenty of sleep and a beauty routine - whatever sends you to your happy place, fill your days with it. We had full spa day before our wedding and it was the best thing we could do - no phones, just spending time with each others, going for romantic walk, exercise, spa, Italian dinner, hot bath and watching old romantic movie in hotel room. We then treated ourselves for huge waffles in the morning before we split our ways for wedding preparations.
- Don't Thing About Everything That Could Go Wrong
It's natural to worry, I get it. But if you do your best to prepare, there is the time before your big day when you just have to LET IT GO and start enjoying yourself before this special time is over. If something goes wrong, it will be out of your control anyways. You will have your closest people around you and I promise you no one cares about every single detail as much as you do. They are there to support you. They will see beautiful bride and their hearts will be full. If you worry, your memories will get blurry and you won't focus on the most precious moments of the day. I was stressing so much about every detail I wanted for our wedding day. Then when the day came, "the details" were the last thing on my mind - I just wanted to enjoy and remember every moment. If I could go back, I would make sure to pamper myself more, pop a bubbly and feel more special - because this is your special time !
On Your Wedding Day
- Delegate Jobs
Make your friends and family feel useful and valued by delegating certain tasks to them - for example your MOH can make sure that she will carry your bag with your wedding day essentials, so you don't have to worry about it and it won't get forgotten. Your bridesmaids can make sure that your make up and hair stays refreshed through the day so you will be loving your photos taken by photographer and family members. Also think upfront of people who can cause you stress during your wedding day and simply give yourself some space from them. I told my bridesmaids to make sure that at least one of them should stay close by during our wedding, so I won't get grabbed by stressful people.
- Allow Plenty Of Time and Don't Stress if you are running late
When you create your timeline, make sure there is plenty of time carved out on either side of the main events. For example plan to be ready an hour early for the ceremony and allow heaps of time for bridal party photos. It is also very common that there are going to be some last minute changes - if that happens, just go with it and remember that the most important thing is to get you in front of your groom for ceremony and then just have fun !
- Be Prepared To Let It Go
When your day comes, remember that this is your special day and it will be over so quickly ! No matter what, next day you will wake up beside your husband, so may as well enjoy every single moment of it, even if every single detail doesn't precisely go as you dreamed . You won't remember if the flowers on the cake are in different order or the flower girl goes too slow during ceremony. What you will remember is the blissful moments walking down the aisle, dancing as newlyweds , listening to the meaningful speeches and feeling love in the air. There are so many beautiful moments to enjoy, don't let your worries to take it away from you.
I hope this will help you to focus more on the big picture, instead of stressing about how will every single detail turn out. I wish you will have the most wonderful wedding day filled with love and precious moments !